September 21, 2016

Love Isn’t Enough: Eros, Ludus, Philia

Here’s a quick recap of everything we’ve talked about thus far in the last few weeks.  Love confuses a lot of people because we all mean so many different things when we use the word love.  Eros is all about romantic, sexual desire or lust.  Ludus is the all about the fun and excitement we feel when dating.  Philia is brotherly love that we have for friends and acquaintances.  This week we’re going to talk about storge.

“…it is described as the most natural, emotive, and widely diffused of loves: natural in that it is present without coercion; emotive because it is the result of fondness due to familiarity; and most widely diffused because it pays the least attention to those characteristics deemed “valuable” or worthy of love and, as a result, is able to transcend most discriminating factors…  Ironically, its strength is also what makes it vulnerable.” – C.S. Lewis

Storge is generally defined as “fondness through familiarity, especially between family members.”  It’s the familial love and the natural affection one feels for a parent, child, sibling, or distant relative.  Adoptive parents can also have it for the children in their care, as well as someone for his or her in-laws.  It can also be used to describe the love between very close friends and their desire to care for one another compassionately.

“While the love we have for one another is very strong, it’s this way not because it has to be, but because we want it this way.  Our love is a choice”

I grew up with 5 brothers, 1 sister, and literally hundreds of first, second, third, and fourth cousins.  I didn’t have any real friends outside of the family until I was probably 11 years old.  Honestly, this is still pretty much the case.  However, by no means is this always easy.  We disagree, argue, and fight like any other family.  While the love we have for one another is very strong, it’s this way not because it has to be, but because we want it this way.  Our love is a choice.

Next Week: Pragma



Author: Vincient Booker

Vincient Booker is a based in Arlington, VA. Vincient is a poet, novelist and playwright. His work focuses on sex, dating, and relationships. He is currently writing his first novel, Burning Dim.

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